Getting Started
Some mentors share that getting started can be the hardest part! Here are some good things to keep in mind as you begin the process:
- Set a good initial tone; be open & engaging
- Identify and share what you are each looking to gain from the relationship (broad goals)
- Challenge each other’s assumptions about the process
- Build trust
- Set clear expectations and ground rules
- Discuss what happens if rules are not followed
- How will you hold each other accountable?
- Process (frequency/type of meetings)
Places to Meet & Things to Do:
- Starbucks, Java City
- Downtown Harrisonburg
- Edith J. Carrier Arboretum for a walk
- Get ice cream at Kline’s
- Work-out or play a game at UREC
- Go to a music or dance performance at the Forbes Center
- Go to a movie at Grafton-Stovall Theatre
- Volunteer in Harrisonburg
- Visit campus offices or attend organizational meetings
- Do an activity or worksheet, see Other Resources
Commitments
Each mentor has committed to do the following:
Maintain confidentiality
- We do NOT expect that you will inform us if students self-disclose violations or are breaking policies.
- There is a limit to confidentiality— as a responsible employee you have a duty to share with us (or the Title IX office) if the student discloses any information regarding sexual misconduct. Disclosure of knowledge of abuse/neglect of a minor(s) or elder or talk of harm to self/others should be reported to OSARP. We are also required to keep statistics of domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking if the student choses to disclose this information.
- If you are unsure of how to handle a confidential issue, please consult OSARP.
Communicate
- Meet the student once a week for an hour.
- Let the coordinator know right away if the student is missing meetings or not communicating.
- Respond to requests for updates from the coordinator.
Engage
- Support and challenge the student through dialogue and activities.
- Provide students feedback about their thoughts and behaviors.
- Act as a resource and connection to other resources.
- Assist the student to reflect on and complete their mission statement and goals.
Resources
As part of the Mentor Experience Civic Learning Program, students must complete a personal mission statement and goals. Instructions for these activities are provided by the mentor. You'll find several resources below to assist your student in these requirements.
Resources for:
- Dimensions of Well-being
- Mission Statement Requirement
- Goal Requirement
- Other Activities & Resources
Questions?
For more ideas or questions, contact your coordinator.
Office of Student Accountability and Restorative Practices
