Helping a Friend
If you are reading this, then chances are you are concerned about the eating habits, weight, or body image of someone you care about. We understand that this can be a very difficult and scary time for you. Let us assure you that you are doing a great thing by looking for more information!! This list may not tell you everything you need to know about what to do in your specific situation, but it will give you some helpful general ideas on what to do to help your friend.- Learn as much as
you can about eating disorders. Read books, articles, and brochures.
- Know the differences
between facts and myths about weight, nutrition, and exercise. Knowing the
facts will help you reason against any inaccurate ideas that your friend may
be using as excuses to maintain her disordered eating patterns.
- Be honest. Talk
openly and honestly about your concerns with the person who is struggling
with eating or body image problems. Avoiding it or ignoring it won't help!
- Be caring, but be firm.
Caring about your friend does not mean being manipulated by her. Your friend
must be responsible for her actions and their consequences. Avoid making
"rules," promises, or expectations that you cannot or will not
uphold (For example, "I promise not to tell anyone." or, "If
you do this one more time I'll never talk to you again.").
- Tell someone. It
may seem difficult to know when, if at all, to tell someone else about your
concerns. Addressing body image or eating problems in their beginning stages
probably offers your friend the best chance for working through these issues
and becoming healthy again. Don't wait until the situation is so severe that
your friend's life is in danger. If you have already spoken with your friend
and still feel like more steps need to be taken to address these issues,
consider telling her parents, a teacher, a doctor, a counselor, a
nutritionist, or any trusted adult. She needs as much support and
understanding as possible from the people in her life.
- Be supportive. Tell them that you know recovery is hard, but many people have achieved it. Don't criticize or make them feel guilty. This may only cause them to slip deeper into the disorder.
Remember: You cannot force someone to seek help, change their habits, or adjust their attitudes; realize that recovery is their responsibility. You will make important progress in honestly sharing your concerns, providing support, and knowing where to go for more information! People struggling with anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating disorder do need professional help. There is help available, and there is hope!