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Taking Care of Yourself

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Self-Encouragement Reality Statements

  1. It is OK to want or need something from someone else.
  2. I have a choice to ask someone for what I want or need.
  3. I can stand it if I don't get what I want or need.
  4. The fact that someone says no to my request doesn't mean I should not have asked in the first place.
  5. If I didn't get my objectives, that doesn't mean I didn't go about it in a skillful way.
  6. Standing up for myself over "small" things can be just as important as "big" things are to others.
  7. I can insist on my rights and still be a good person.
  8. I sometimes have a right to assert myself, even though I may inconvenience others.
  9. The fact that other people might not be assertive doesn't mean that I shouldn't be.
  10. I can understand and validate another person, and still ask for what I want.
  11. There is no law that says other people's opinions are more valid than mine.
  12. I may want to please people I care about, but I don't have to please them all the time.
  13. Giving, giving, giving is not the be-all of life. I am an important person in this world, too.
  14. If I refuse to do a favor for people, that doesn't mean I don't like them. They will probably
    understand that too.
  15. I am under no obligation to say yes to people simply because they ask a favor of me.
  16. The fact that I say no to someone does not make me a selfish person.
  17. If I say no to people and they get angry, that does not mean that I should have said yes.
  18. I can still feel good about myself, even though someone else is annoyed with me.