Families & Visitors
Finding a Way In
“They all know each other already!” You may hear your student say this about people he’s living with, members of an organization and more.
It’s part of breaking through established groups in the second half of the year. And while it can be tough at times, it’s certainly not impossible!
If your student needs a push to break through and find a place to belong, you can suggest…
- Finding a Guide. Chances are your student knows someone in an organization or who is part of an intramurals team. If he asks, that person can serve as his initial “in” to introduce him to the group.
- Making Invitations. Even though it may seem like everyone is established already, there are always people open to meeting others. So, encourage your student to invite some people from class or the residence hall to coffee. They may then turn around and start inviting her, too!
- Focusing on Strengths. What is it that makes your student feel confident? It may be his artistic abilities, his way with budgets or just his aptitude for learning new things. If he focuses on these strengths and what they can add to a group, it can give him a more comfortable way in, as he emphasizes what he can do for the organization, rather than just what it can do for him.
- Just Getting Out There. Sometimes, taking the plunge to try something outside of our comfort zone can reap the best rewards. Remind your student of this fact as she puts herself out there to meet new people – and break on through.